Harassment within gaming

Agree. It does take up quite a bit of space.

Thanks for your comments Kat. You're right that it's very easy for discussions to descend into slanging matches, I see it happening on the internet all the time and the fault is almost always on both sides. I'm naturally paranoid and defensive; I generally expect the worst from people and will take things badly if it's possible to interpret it like that, sometimes even when it's obvious the other person meant no harm. This makes the internet a poor home for me. I also avoid Avalon and similar games because I hate arguing and they make me feel picked on. Given that debate and singling people out is the whole point of the game it's a very bad idea for me to play! Other people thrive on healthy debate, however, and will gladly get stuck in. That's fine as long as you appreciate that not everyone wants to be dragged into an argument.

Andy: I'm so glad you feel comfortable coming along, thanks for your positive input about the club, it's great to hear.

Karl: I agree with everyone else about the content being too much on the front page. An about us section and a link to it from the front page sounds about right.

Y'all need to get some bigger monitors!

Comments noted, I'll have a look at the weekend but we may be limited by the forum software and my lack of know-how! For example, I know that the menu buttons across the top (Home, Members, etc) are individual images so adding a new item means creating a new image (the existing ones come with the skin template), reverting to a default or re-doing them all.

Lizzy wrote:Thanks for your comments Kat. You're right that it's very easy for discussions to descend into slanging matches, I see it happening on the internet all the time and the fault is almost always on both sides. I'm naturally paranoid and defensive; I generally expect the worst from people and will take things badly if it's possible to interpret it like that, sometimes even when it's obvious the other person meant no harm. This makes the internet a poor home for me. I also avoid Avalon and similar games because I hate arguing and they make me feel picked on. Given that debate and singling people out is the whole point of the game it's a very bad idea for me to play! Other people thrive on healthy debate, however, and will gladly get stuck in. That's fine as long as you appreciate that not everyone wants to be dragged into an argument.

There's so much scope for miscommunication and misunderstanding on the internet, it's untrue. For example, with the thing Kat mentioned, how some people try to make light of a situation (that another person may be quite sensitive about); friends of mine (outside of the club) often do this, and it's a kind of playful friendly sarcasm, and you can tell under the words, there's this unspoken warmth and compassion (and I think it's often said as an aid to help me shift my perspective or address any self-pity I maybe indulging in). Anyhow, to my mind, it's all about intent; and I'd be very surprised if anyone has said anything on this thread that wasn't coming from the best of intentions.

I think I know what you mean too, about being quick to interpret things badly (esp. concerning other people's feelings about me); I've been like that for most of my life. I'm not so bad now though, I think you naturally change as you grow older, and become less concerned with what's going off in other people's heads, and more concerned about just doing stuff that you yourself find fun.

Arguing in Avalon!? I never see it like that (that's just my perspective I know), it's more like acting and practicing deceit and story telling, pushing my own boundaries and, and, I don't know, I can't find the words to express how much fun it is! Or at least, how much fun *I* find it to be.

Horses for courses I guess! Avalon is definitely not everyone's cup of tea. That said, if you or anyone else, ever changes their mind about Avalon, you'd be more than welcome to join us for a game. It's okay if you don't though.